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What do you do when an old nemesis returns?

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This article is pretty straight forward and most likely applies to all people (If it doesn’t then lucky you).  What do you do when an old nemesis returns?  First off I use ‘nemesis’ loosely and it may boil down to a bully from high school, elementary, a friend you had a falling out with, someone you dated or someone who just did not see eye to eye with you?

What do you do now that time has passed?  Wounds healed?  Prides hurt?  Does the amount of time past matter?

It’s amazing to have all those feelings rush into you in the blink of an eye.  You go through many emotions rapidly and snap decisions.  After the fog clears you come to a decision.  Do I want this person in my life again, even if it’s on an impersonal, internet friendship with, once a year in-person meetings?

Unfortunately it differs from person to person and the “game of life” doesn’t come with an instruction manual. (Other than the actual “Game of Life”)

I guess the lesson I learned is everyone has their own journey to take.  When you’re on your own for good or worse you forget about the journey others are taking.

After what seemed like forever wrestling emotions (yet only moments passed) I’m willing to forgive and forget…. for now.

Life is too short for grudges and hanging or dwelling onto pain is only making things worse.  The longer you allow painful memories to haunt or hurt you then you’re letting them consume you.

I’m willing to give people second chances.

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Why is Canada Silent on the Gun debate?

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We Canadians have a saying “guns don’t kill people Americans do”.

Over the growing debate on gun violence in America I’ve noticed that Canada has been very silent on the matter.  I know some may say that “we are not Americans so it’s not our problem.”  Actually to those people we ARE technically Americans!  We live on the continent of North America just like they do.  So why have we been so silent on this big issue?  I think our opinion should be viewed considering they are our next door neighbours.  What they do affects us.

Maybe if people saw that even though we are directly next door and have millions of guns in our backyard and are also a heavy gun country with a large hunting and sportsman history,  yet do not have a fraction of the gun violence and murders that they do every year.

Why can’t we see it from the Americans perspective?  They are a society that is heavily immersed in a “gun culture”.  That is something we all can agree on and this whole nonsense that is coming from the NRA that America has more violent video games and movies is just preposterous.  The rest of the world has violent games, movies and yet the number of gun related deaths cannot be compared.

So what’s the difference between Canada and the States?   For starters is that in America you can carry a firearm on you at pretty much all times.  My girlfriend learned this fact recently when she entered a Denny’s breakfast house and they were raffling away a gun with your breakfast!  She’s lived in both Canada and Europe and Asia and never experienced that before.  That’s really scary coming from a Canadian who’s never even seen a gun until my teens.  You cannot carry a handgun for protection in Canada.  However, if you need to move one, e.g., to a shooting range, you have to go to a police station and get a “Permit to Convey.” This allows you to move the gun at a certain time on a certain date from point A to B. If you are a member of a gun club, then you can get an open permit to convey that allows you to take the gun from where it is stored (usually at home) to the gun club. Both must be named on the permit, with addresses, etc. If you wanted to visit a different range, you would need a separate permit.
Handgun ownership in Canada is legal, but very difficult.  I think a gun license should be hard to get and easy to lose.

In the United States less than 1 percent of all gun applicants are denied.  Over 40 percent are purchased without a background check.

Is it that simple, stricter Gun laws?  I would say it’s a step in the right direction.  However I believe the United States are many years away from having even remotely similar gun laws as Canada does.

I’ve lived in this country for 30 years and only come across gun stores twice by accident.  You just don’t see them let alone being able to buy guns and ammo at a Wall-mart like in the USA for example.

So what do they do?  Well they are beginning with a ban on all assault style weapons.  Sounds like a good start considering the law was already in place for years until the Bush party let it expire in 1994.  This is going to be an uphill battle to get these guns re-banned outside of the military.  Especially since I’ve heard a few gun enthusiasts refer to the AR-15 as the ‘Lego gun’ comparing it to the child’s plastic brick toys due to their limitless customization, and people love their ability to customize.

It’s in this type of culture it’s very difficult to address the issue because to them it is normal.  To me as a non-gun owner it seems almost simian.

I have been watching the debates and incidents for many years and something I find that is so obvious I don’t know how anyone has not brought it up before?

Do you not see the real reason they want to hang onto their guns?  It’s not because they want to defend their homes against intruders or government.  To fight off the “red coats” as a recent moron pontificated.  It’s not even about the second amendment as many believe to be so.  The answer to all this is actually quite simple and Americans are afraid to admit it.

Guns are fun!!  Wait… what?? Did I just say that?  Yes I did!  Guns are fun!

I learned this as I entered my teens and my friend moved out into the country with a few friends and zero adult supervision.  This was the first time I fired a rifle and I’ll have to admit it was a hoot.  Lining up those pop cans from far away and picking them off, watching them flip and explode to the excitement of all around.  Even a few beers made it all the more exciting and increased danger.  I could get used to doing this every weekend.  Sadly this ended months later.  But I realized that guns are a form of entertainment.

I had never felt like this before.  I understand it; I’m not thrilled about it but understand it.  When I held that rifle for the first time I felt it.  That power.  Maybe the power over life and death, maybe danger as well but mainly I just felt the power.  This must be the underlying feeling shared by all Americans who regularly carry a firearm on their person.  I used to think as a little kid about how cool it would be to grow up and carry a gun.  I’d just be like an action star.  The reality is that life is not a movie.  As shocking a statement this will be to some Americans I say “Life is not the wild west either”!!!

I see and hear people like Peirce Morgan ask the question “Why do Americans need a weapon like the AR-15? You have your answer Peirce!  Guns are fun and the American public know that if their only excuse to own that gun is because it’s fun to shoot: then they are going to have them taken away.  Of course they have to push the 2nd amendment down your throat.

Yeah the 2nd amendment also says it needs to be updated every 20 years but you don’t hear them argue about that.

Why do they need weapons and ammo clips like that? They Don’t!

So what do we do?  We can’t take away their fun.  If I lived and grew up in America who knows maybe I would have been a kid who got into playing with guns instead of video games.  The difference is at the end of the day there is zero chance I’m going die while playing “Call of duty” as opposed to playing with real weapons.

My argument is that America needs to be slowly weaned off guns like a smoker with a Nicorette patch.  I would love to say “let’s make a guns that sound and shoot like real ones but non- lethal.  A gun that fires rounds that immobilize a human but doesn’t kill them (like a stun gun). So people wanting to defend themselves have no argument.  Would that suffice or do they need death as well?  I know they have rubber bullets but more advanced than that.

Canadians need to be more vocal about the gun violence happening across the border.  Maybe with some help from us we can sand out some of the rough edges to our friends to the south.  If you’re skeptical it’s simpler to look at statistics like this.

Deaths by guns in America in 2011: 12,664

Cross an imaginary line into a neighbouring country containing millions of guns with the difference of not being able to carry a gun on your person:

Deaths by guns in Canada in 2011: 598

I still believe 598 deaths are too high but when compared to the United States, the stats speak for themselves.

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Follow up to previous post about School shooting at Sandy Hook Elementary.

First off I would again like to express my deepest sympathy towards the victims and families of the School shooting in Connecticut that took place a week ago today.  My heart again goes out.

As the facts and numbers have been coming in I have to make some adjustments to my previous post.

In the aftermath, the shooter Adam Lanza not his brother Ryan was the culprit in these tragic events.  They originally believed it to be the older brother because the younger (ADAM) used his brothers I.D to gain entrance to the school and is the reason for the confusion in the beginning.  I apologize to the brother Ryan for this mistake.

This is the first time I’ve ever reported on a “breaking news event” and now am aware the first response facts can be misconstrued.

Also there was 26 people killed including 20 children and 6 adult teachers on that fateful day at Sandy Hook.

It has been a very emotional week for everybody.  The sheer gravity of the situation is still very fresh and I cannot imagine what the families and people of Sandy Hook are going through.

Once again I can only weep and hope that changes will come soon to American gun laws.

As we have sat and watched events unfold for a week we have heard from mostly all sides about the gun law issue.

Out of all who spoke we were all awaiting a response from the NRA. (National Rifle Association)

Well they just responded a few minutes ago.  They stood up to the podium and talked.  They talked about a culprit responsible for these atrocities that have been occurring for far too long.  These atrocities being ‘mass shootings’ but in my opinion even if one person turns a gun onto another it is noteworthy and a horrible event.  They discussed a growing problem in America that is the source of these problems with gun violence in America.

That source… Video games?  Yes you heard me right.

Not the violence in the daily news, not the growing distance between the ‘have’s and the ‘have more’s’.  They blame video games for ‘transforming’ the youth of America into shooting each other.  So does that mean banning video games?  If so why not movies, and the news?

They are also calling for an armed guard in every school in America!  If that’s true what about the movie theatre in Aurora?  Do we need armed guards at the movies now?

Although I have my own views as do we all,  everyone is entitled to their opinions and you have to respect the other side of the argument.  Even if you disagree with it or don’t understand it you have to be able to sit back and at least listen to someones argument because when you think about it, in their heads they believe 100 percent that their suggestion is the correct corse of action.

Well I listened to what the NRA had to say today.

My opinion.. and maybe this is just because Im Canadian all I have to say in response is “What are you a bunch of fucking Idiots!!!

I know I’m going to get some serious fallout for this but Do you have any Idea how much the world despises the NRA?  You crazy war mongering bunch of inbred, brain-dead hicks!!!  How dare you blame anyone but yourselves!  If you really believed that More guns made a country safer than America would be one of the safest country’s in the world.  It is of course the EXACT opposite!!! 

They actually had the audacity to say “The only way to stop an armed bad guy is a good guy with a gun.”

It still boggles the mind that people “that stupid’ are actually in charge of things.  I wouldn’t let the head of the NRA water my plants.  Instead of watering my plants they would probably just shoot holes in the roof and wait for rain.

If you don’t believe me that guns only kill and never save, then just think about how many times on the news have you seen stories stating :

“Man saved group of people because of his gun’.

‘Group saved due to civilians carrying firearms’.

‘These bad guys could have killed us all but it’s a good thing we all had guns to protect ourselves’.

You know why you have never heard these stories?  Because they do not exist!!!  Get that through you thick heads!!!

The NRA is not even going to take some of the blame for these loose gun laws.  I cannot wait for the rest of the country and world to rise up and squash you like the hillbilly bugs that you are.  I’ve never seen a group of people as DEAF as the NRA.  Probably because all the members I see are like 100 years old.

It is good in a way that they are so unreasonable and inflexible as they are being because they are just ‘digging their own graves’ on this issue.

If it were up to me I would ban all guns with a few exceptions.

#1.  People who want to hunt, you get single bolt-action rifles and shotguns …That’s it!!  Even though people could be taught to shoot a bow.

#2.  Everything else banned including handguns.  There is absolutely zero need for any other kind of weapon including hand guns. ZERO REASON!!! No one is hunting moose with a hand gun or a group of quale with an assault rifle!

If you need to protect your self from an assailant that’s what a stun gun is for.

Other than special forces police and soldiers there is absolutely no reason for these other types of weapons to exist.

You still want to fire a gun.. fine!!  We still have gun ranges but all the weapons have to stay at the range.  You walk in, pick a gun, fire off some rounds, and leave.  You don’t need to take that gun home.

Why don’t we just find an island out in the ocean and everyone who wants unlimited gun laws and zero registration can all just live their together in complete chaos. Just all go live on some island somewhere and get your gun jollies off to your heart’s content.  We will all sit back from where we are and watch you destroy yourselves.

For my final thought today I will address the NRA and I can’t think of a better quote than Brad Pitts character in the movie “seven”

“Do you just sit around reading ‘guns and ammo’, masturbating in your own feces, and just sit up and say “wow”! its amazing just how fucking crazy I really am”!!!

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Canadians… we’re not that nice.

Whats worse is you can also drink at 18 in Montreal.

The setting: The parking lot of a metro grocery store on a cold rainy November evening. I found myself sitting in my car and the battery had gone dead.  I just love it when that happens.  I exited my car and proceeded to remove the jumper cables from my trunk (I had two pairs?  Dad, do I owe you a set?).  So now all I have to do is find someone with a running car in a crowded grocery store parking.  That should be easy, shouldn’t it?

The rain started to pummel my face.  I was located at the front of the store parking, adjacent to the handy capped space, the remaining 3 spaces to my right, rear right and rear left are unoccupied.

Suddenly my savior pulls in right beside me (or so I thought) in the form of a white Volkswagen Jetta.  The man steps out and I’m waiting.  “Excuse me,” I said, “Do you think you could give me a boost?”

The man without missing a beat, “No call a cab.”

After the initial shock of what he said, which was only about a few seconds, I said, “Are you serious?” He kept walking and gave me a half turn, “it’s under plastic and I uhh…” His voice faded away.

“No, that’s okay, I’ll find someone else,” I shouted.  He walked a few steps towards me making an attempt to convince me that it’s easier to call a cab rather than use the jumper cables I have in my hands. I interrupt him again, “No that’s alright!  I’ll just wait for a decent person to come along.”  He turned and slumped his mediocre self away. I didn’t get his name but I did get his license plate number.  Would you like it?

I then saw a guy across from me walking to his truck.  I walked a few steps towards him, “Excuse me, can you give me a boost? “ “Nah,” said the hurried guy, “It’s not my truck. “ What the hell does that mean?  Iguess if it’s his buddy’s truck he’s not allowed to help people while using it.

Another lady exits the store and I hear the sound of an alarm being deactivated behind me. Fantastic, I thought.  Not only is this women already done her shopping, but her car is parked behind me and my car’s battery is located in the trunk (Yes, I know it’s weird, but it actually works out a lot.  It wasn’t my choice, but there’s no room in the front for the battery compartment.  Anyway…) She walks up to her car that’s unlocked and I ask her the question and she promptly answers with, “No, I have to go pick up my kids.” Man these people are racking up all kinds of bad karma for themselves!

I try a few more cars, but when I approach people in their cars I guess they expect I’m some kind of begger and they refuse to even acknowledge that I was asking for help.  They turned their heads away and ignored me.  One guy locked his doors and turned on the radio until I walked away.  Wow!  Nowi know what  someone with infectious syphilis feels like.

I can remember several times when I actually drove someone to a gas station to fill a jerry can (gas can) and drove them back to their cars! I guess it’s because my father usually stops for people in distress.  I’ve seen him drive someone to a Canadian tire, buy a fan belt, then drive back and help them install it, taking over an hour for the whole process.  And I can’t even get someone to give me a boost when I’m holding the friggin’ jumper cables myself! (completely flabber ghasted!)

So out of the corner of my eye I see a women getting into the handy capped space to my left rear.  I figured I would not ask her because, well, she has enough problems, I think.  She pulls into the space behind me previously occupied by the ‘busy mother.’  She opens her door and smiles brightly and says, “Do you need a boost?”  My soaking wet expression of anger and frustration dissipates and I give her hearty thumbs up.

“I heard some of those others,” she said, “What jerks!”  We share a laugh.

After I pack the jumper cables back into the trunk, I shake her hand and ask her, her name.  “My name’s fay,” she says.

Thanks Fay… You made my day.

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